How To Raise A Lady Boss With Julie Peters
How does one raise a lady boss? In today's episode, Stephanie Peters gets the answers from someone who has raised a lady boss herself, her mom, Julie Peters. Julie is a multimillionaire mom boss that inspires countless lady bosses to step up into their God-given potential through her motivational speaking and “Mentoring by Mama P.” She shares stories about Stephanie’s childhood mischief and the little things she did that helped mold her daughter to be the extraordinary person she is today. Discover things that working moms can do to create an upbuilding environment where children feel secure and loved. Learn more about communication and gratitude today. This is a fun mom-and-daughter episode you should not miss.
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How To Raise A Lady Boss With Julie Peters
I am lit up. I know I say that a lot, but this time it is for a good reason. I have asked this woman multiple times to be on here, but she has other priorities. She is coming on. Some people are like, “Stef, you got it going on.” Let me say, I’ve got it from my mama. I am so blessed and honored to have Mama P join me. She has built a multimillion-dollar business. She is a boss mama. She has been such an incredible and encouraging woman of faith. She has raised me into the woman that I am. I'm still growing and I'm still evolving. I am a byproduct of all the values and everything that she's instilled into me. I am so grateful. I’ve told her many times, if I would've had a strong-willed mama that told me who was boss, I would probably be quite the rebellious child. I will say that she has raised me with so much grace, so much love, guided and directed me, but has not been so hardcore. We have polar opposite personalities. I am the Type-A type of lady boss, and she is the smell the roses and skip through the daisies. Without further ado, I want to introduce #TheWhiteOprah, Mama P. Thank you for joining.
I do have a backbone. I do love to enjoy my journey and I think that has been a benefit to you and dad too. I feel so blessed and honored. I’m so proud of you, Stef, for being a trailblazer and doing this. I’ve tuned-in to about all of them. Some of them blessed my socks off. One of my favorites was Nicole Crank.
That was one of my first. That was the second that I did and I was scared sick. I was like, “Mom, can you come with me?” We packed up the Mini Cooper and drove down to West Palm beach. The equipment wasn't working. It was a hot mess. I was walking out to the car and I was like, “That was a crap show.” Mama P was like, “It wasn't bad. It was great.” Sometimes you're your worst critic and so you have to give yourself grace. She's always been that one that's breathed life and belief into me and she's been the ultimate cheerleader and such a gift. Let's dive into all the details.
After you wrote your book, there were so many people that came up to me and said, “You need to write a book on how to raise a lady boss.” Because you are very strong-willed, but that's not a bad thing when you can channel that and guide and direct a strong-willed child. I want to encourage mommas out there that they may have a firstborn female like I did. I was married seven years before I had children. I had prayed and prayed because I wanted to be a mom so bad. I think God didn't allow me to have a child because he was preparing me for her.
He has a sense of humor because all of the crazy that I put her through, you don't get a duplicate.
Stef, you came out of me with a ten-year plan. I always tell mommas that have firstborn females, “They are a different breed. They are going to rule the world. They are going to impact this world. What our job is to help mold and shape them into these wonderful human beings that they can be. Sometimes there's a little molding and shaping that has to go on. Motherhood is not for the faint of heart.
Let's dive into some of the stories. The long and the short of why I wanted to bring Mama P on is because I get a lot of people asking me a lot of questions about how to raise a lady boss and I don't know. I can't give you the details, but I know someone that can. I was super feisty. I was super sassy as a young little girl. I was reminiscing on my run and I remember there was one morning that this guy kept calling. He was a cold caller and he kept calling the house. I was getting super annoyed and I was also bored because I was homeschooled at the time, so was Ben. We were like, “What is wrong with this guy?” I told my brother, “Ben, if that cold caller calls one more time, we're going to prank that guy and tell him who's boss.” He calls up again and I got into this elderly voice and I'm like, “My husband's beating me.” Ben was like, “Get off the phone.” We're bantering back and forth. We click the phone. We don't think anything about it. About twenty minutes later, squad cars come screeching up the driveway. I was freaking out. Mama P was gardening, not knowing what is happening. The policeman comes up.
We had moved to this place where we live and I think I had bib overalls on. I had gloves on my hands and I had dirt all over me. I come around the house and there are five screaming squad cars coming on my driveway. I must have had huge eyes because I had no idea what was going on. They run out of the car and they go, “How are you?” I go, “I'm fine.” “We got a call for a domestic here.” I'm going, “A domestic?” I love my husband. We fight once in a while but there was no domestic. I turn around and I see Stef and Ben in the garage turning white as ghost and I'm going, “Just a minute.” They share their story that there's this credit card company constantly calling and they got sick of it. They pretended there was a domestic going on and they hung up the phone. They must have called the police. They're sharing this story with me and the cop almost started laughing, but he knew he better not. He whispers in my ear, “I get so upset with these callers from credit card companies too.” He looks at my kids and he goes, “Next time, maybe say 'Take me off your mailing list.’”
I was having furniture delivered. There's a whole furniture truck driving into the driveway, experiencing all of those too. Raising kids is not for the faint of heart. Some of the crazy stories to give you a little insight to Stef. When I was pregnant with my second child, Ben, I threw up my entire nine months. My husband and I traveled for the first twelve years of our married life as public speakers, but I could not travel the last trimester of my pregnancy. Anytime I would get out of bed, I would have to go immediately and throw up. It was not a good pregnancy. I had to take care of this little lady boss and she came marching in one morning and I must have had a talk with her the day before going, “I'm the boss. You obey me. You’d be a good daughter. You don't talk back.” She marches into the bedroom, puts her little hand on her hip and looked straight at me before I get out of bed going, “Mom, I'm the bosser.” That's what I had in my hands and that's her attitude and possibly still now.
I truly think the moral of the story too is so many of the different things of you probably saw different situations going differently in your head is you gave us so much grace. You still set us on the straight as arrow and you told us right from wrong. You instilled those biblical values but you didn't sweat the small stuff. A lot of times if parents drop the hammer and they don't massage the situation and throw into a wall for lack of a better term, not physically, but don't care and don't explain it, that's going to go over. If you would've done that with me, that would have gone over like a lead balloon. I truly think I'd be extremely messed up. I'm not saying that I'm not.
You remember you would get into mischief. You were naughty once in a while. I would send you down to your room. I would sometimes have to cool off because I didn't want to say things that I would regret later. I'd set the timer for maybe ten or fifteen minutes and then I would sit down on the side of your bed. Sometimes I would be so tired at night but I knew I had to talk this out with you. I would sit and sometimes it would be 45 to 50 minutes. By the end of the conversation you would say, “Okay, mom. I understand and I'm sorry.” Now, it doesn't take you quite that long to say you're sorry, but you're very quick to say I'm sorry. I look back, if you have a strong little child, you have to take that time and not just send them to the room and let them go to bed. Talk it out and let them understand why that's not appropriate or that was disrespectful or this is not how we act as a young lady. I think that was part of helping you navigate through those times in your life.
It's so important to put your arm around them and have a caring and candid conversation. There were many times where I was so hardcore. I was going to tell you where to go and you set these straight up. I was not going to tell you where to go. You were so kind on the journey. I think that's important. There are even little things. I was also reminiscing different things that you did as a child and sometimes I would talk about it. You didn't think that made that big of a difference, but to me it made all the difference in the world. People wouldn't guess this, but I can be very introverted. I call myself an extroverted introvert. I’ve had to put myself out there in the career path that I’ve chosen. When I would feel so isolated at school, when I would open up my lunches, I would see little notes of, “I love you. You're my champion.” Some type of a scripture and these little notes that I would tear up at lunch, feeling so alone, but feeling so supported because Mama P had my back. I think those little things make all the difference in the world, even if the kids don't acknowledge it. Most of the time, they don't. Those little things make a difference.
I want to encourage the moms too. You don't do those to get accolades or anything like that. Your kids probably won't say anything when you're doing them. Later in life, it's probably the last few years you've told me how important that was to you. Sometimes we beat up ourselves as moms going, “Are we doing enough? Are we good enough moms? Are we getting our kids the things they need in life?” I remember when we traveled at the beginning of our married life. It was seven years before I had Stef. We had Ben about three years later. We were on the road fifteen to twenty days a month in a van, not down by the river though. There were many times I'm thinking, “Am I doing enough? They're not in dance. They're not in soccer,” because we were traveled way too much. I asked Ben a few years ago, “What are some good memories that you have of your childhood?” He goes, “Mom, I loved it when we would climb in the van after you and dad would speak and we'd have all these big fluffy comforters and we'd be eating and we'd pop in a VHS.” That's how old they are.
“We'd watch Disney or Veggie Tales or anything like that, and you would snuggle in the back with us and we'd fall asleep.” I'm going, “I thought I wasn't giving my kids enough.” Kids love it when you spend time with them, adding value to their lives. If we didn't speak, we didn't eat, so we had to be on the road back then. Sometimes people go, “I can't bring them to Disney or I can't do this or that.” Put a blanket on your living room floor and have a picnic with them and read a fun book. Adding value to your kids in that simple ways is so important.
Raise A Lady Boss: Raising kids is not for the faint of heart.
Even when dad was investing in us. My dad, he had all brothers. He had a sister that died early of cancer. He wasn't able to relate to women in general. I think you can say that. The thing was he built bunny cages with me because I loved animals. Even we would dance on Friday nights to the intro of Family Matters and he would pick us up and he would swing Ben and I around. You'd be making popcorn in the background. It was those moments. How much did they cost? It was the time that you invested in that was such a gift.
Some other principles. I know that's what you want me to talk about. This story I love. As a little lady boss, if you have a lady boss, they can be a little domineering. She was very domineering on Ben when they were little. I remember them fighting quite a bit when they were younger. I had it one day and so I sat them down in the couch. I think Ben was about four and you were about seven. I said, “Here's the deal. At the Peters’ house, we build people up. We don't tear them down. If you have to tear people down, you are insecure. In this family, we add value, we build people, we encourage people.” I gave them my little mini-sermon and their eyes are huge as silver dollars. I walked out of the room and about two weeks later, we're in the van and they're in the back. They're starting to squabble a little bit. I hear this little deep voice coming out of my four-year-old son going, “Sissy, you're supposed to build me up, not build me down.” He had gotten the concept. That's what we've tried to instill in our kids. Build people. People want to be built so bad. Steve and I were at the Minnesota adult and teen challenge banquet in Rochester, Minnesota. Some of these kids, their parents were on drugs or alcohol and they wanted to be built so bad, they didn't feel loved. The kids desire so much to be loved and spent time with. That's the main thing you get out of this show is love them, spend time with them, build them as little human beings.
The other piece is we had a very nontraditional upbringing. We changed schools or shifted environments seven different times. I’ve had people ask me when they ask more about my story, they're like, “Wasn't that hard? Wasn't that difficult to deal with?” I look back on that and I am so grateful that we changed schools so many different times because it taught us people skills. How to quickly connect with someone, adaptability, how to go into an environment and succeed no matter what. It taught us grit and to step up. One thing that a lot of mamas deal with, specifically they're like, “If I'm not going the traditional route and my child's upbringing doesn't look completely Pinterest perfect,” they get this mom guilt. Some of the craziest situations that kids are thrown into, no matter how messed up the background is, it can teach them so many different life principles. Give them the space to fall down, skin their knees, but pick them back up and then guide and direct them. It's important for there to be a mother's love that's caring, nurturing and compassionate, but also a father's love. Dad kicked us in the butt. It's important to have both sides of the coin.
There are a lot of single moms out there and they go, “We don't have that.” It would be wonderful. Steve and I are going to be married 38 years. We've had each other, I feel so blessed, but not everybody has that. You want to reach out in the community and the church. Maybe you are a single mom, there are some awesome men out there that can mentor your children. If you have a son, to do father-son things and being a mentor. Having good mentors in your kids' lives besides the parents are amazing also. It's very important.
If you were to start all over again and raise this crazy little lady boss, are there things that you would tweak moving forward? Are you like, “It all happened for a purpose and a reason and there isn't anything that I would shift?”
Overall, when you become a mom, it's a personal growth plan that God puts in your own life. You have to continue to grow yourself to help your little lady boss grow also. It keeps you on your knees. You think I'm pretty easy going and I am, but there were times I would sweat the small stuff. I'd get my stomach in a knot going, “I don't know if we're going to get through this.” I sweat too much of the small stuff. As moms, don't sweat the small stuff. Look at the bigger picture. Look at the character-building things that you can add value to your kids and help them navigate and not be a lawnmower mom. What that means is you want to mow everything down so your kid has this perfect life. That's not realistic. Let them go through some bumps along the way. Be there for them, but they've got to learn how to navigate through the bumps of life knowing that life is uphill. If you're going to accomplish anything in life, life is uphill. Where your strength and power come from is from Jesus and spending time with him on a daily basis in your devotions in the morning. I would say the thing that I would tell mommas out there, don't sweat the small stuff. Love on your kids, build them, encourage them and discipline them. They need to be disciplined at times. There's nothing wrong with discipline because it's very important.
What would you say was one of the biggest struggles that you had as a mom raising us and how did you overcome it?
Most moms now have to work. We second-guess ourselves, “Are we giving enough time to our kids or whatever?” If you are a stay-at-home mom, that is awesome. I'm not saying stay-at-home moms don't work because you do a mom's work. If you are one of those moms that have to work outside the home, get your kids on the same page. Steven and I were entrepreneurs. We traveled the first twelve years of our marriage as public speakers, then we drove into a business. We were entrepreneurs. When you're an entrepreneur there's a lot of plates and a lot of time you have to spend on your business. We would say, “You're going to have a few more extra babysitters.” When we get to a certain place in our business, we're going to go to Chuck E. Cheese or we're going to do this fun thing with you. Even when they were small when we started our business, we got them on the same page. Sometimes it's like, “Go mom. You go for it. We want to go to Chuck E. Cheese.” If you can get your kids on the same page as you, that's huge. Let them know and set some goals as family going, “When we get to this place, then we're going to do this.” I think that helps them cheer you on as their parent too.
I don't know anything else besides you and dad being entrepreneurs. What would you tell that full-time entrepreneur or maybe that mom that does have a side hustle, what would be your best pieces of advice as they're raising a family?
Get them on the same page. If you are working 50, 60, 70 hours, that's very tough. You have to. If you have children, you have to make time for them. Sometimes we get overwhelmed as moms because we're spinning a lot of plates. Where my strength came from is my morning routine. My morning routine is something that it is very rare that I don't have it. That is where my power came from. If you don't know what a morning routine is, it is I get up early and sometimes I like to get up about 5:30, but sometimes my nights wouldn't allow me to do that. Right in between 6:00 and 6:30, a lot of times I will get up. I brew my coffee, my coffee and Jesus in the morning was very important. I’m going through those affirmations because when you're an entrepreneur or if you are working full-time and raising a family, you get beat down. You've got to fill your mind in the morning. Some of my affirmations that I started my morning with are, “I am highly favored of God. I am valuable, qualified, forgiven and loved. I am confident and courageous. I am a great mom. The joy of the Lord is my strength. I trust you, Jesus, that I'm going to have a phenomenal day and so are my kids,” things like that.
If you don't know what affirmations are, go to Pinterest, there are tons of them out there. Before my feet hit the floor, before I even had my coffee, I say five things that I am grateful for. It can be my nice toasty warm bed to a hot shower that I'm going to be hopping in not very long. Being grateful as a mom and even when your kids maybe aren't doing exactly, maybe they're going off course a little bit, but it's being so thankful for your children and that God is guiding and directing their steps. Have affirmations that are scriptures also. Have some devotions. If I have time, I love to read about 30 minutes of a good faith building book or personal growth book. I do a workout. Sometimes it's short, sometimes it's longer. That is where I believe I got my strength. If it wasn't for my time with Jesus in the morning, I don't know if I would've survived my life with Steve. It feels like I’ve been on a bucking Bronco with him all my married life. He was a mover and a shaker and that's what attracted me to him, but it's been a wild ride at times. You have two kids to add to that. My North Star, my rock, my power source is Jesus. That is where I would set my day.
You're very intentional in the morning and when you lay that foundation for yourself, you can pull from that strength and that is your strength. Even in the midst of the storm, you do have that piece no matter what happens. To center yourself in that is so important. The other thing that I saw growing up is you did a great job of even outsourcing a lot of the jobs. Even we had Gloria, our nanny, from three years old on. I remember walking Gloria out of the house a couple times because I didn't know what I thought of her at the beginning.
You would tell Gloria and she was this most wonderful older lady. She was 65 when she started because I was so overwhelmed. She would come in and cook and clean and take care of the kids while I had to do my thing. I remember you telling Gloria, “I'm going to tell my mom to fire you.” She would go right back at you. She was so good for you. She'd go, “That's fine. I’ll get a job with a nice little girl.” She was an amazing a person in my life and she was a person of faith also. That was so reassuring to me knowing she was adding value to my kids in their faith walk too even as a little people when you are small.
For moms, if they can afford to outsource some of those things like the cooking, cleaning and laundry. You also had someone that dealt with the books because you bawled when that wasn't like your zone of genius or you brought in different people to help you with specific things in your business, which is so important. My whole mantra is to automate, delegate or eliminate. Sometimes there are those little things that we hold on to as human beings that we think we need to do all of the things for all the people, but you can't do that. You have to take those things off your plate if people aren't happy with it. I know you're very much of a people pleaser. The older that both of us get, we understand that you can only take so much on. If people are in your corner and they're your allies, maybe they will be ticked off for a period of time, but long-term they're going to come back full circle because they want to see you in joy, in peace and living your best life.
Raise A Lady Boss: Having good mentors in your kids' lives besides the parents is amazing.
There's nothing better to show your children than being a happy and fulfilled mom whatever that looks like to you. When you are at peace with yourself, all of us know the saying that, “If mama isn’t happy, nobody is happy. If daddy isn’t happy, nobody cares.” I'm not saying dads aren't important at all by that, but we set the tone in our home. When we're happy, fulfilled, full of joy and full of peace, not that my daughter saw that every day of my life, but that is what we want to strive for, to have that peace. When life comes against you, still to have that peace and not that we're emotionally up and down all the time. Us mamas have such a power in our home to set the tone for good or for bad. I wanted to choose. Not that I'm perfect by any means. Don't talk to my kids because they'll point out all my faults. I love this story about Wilma Rudolph. She's African-American. She was a sickly child. She had her left leg in a brace. I don't remember if it was pulley or not. She said this quote, “My doctor told me I would never walk again. My mother told me I would and I believe my mother.” I love that because we have the power to pour into our kids to believe in themselves. If you don't know who Wilma Rudolph is, she won three gold medals in track and field in 1956 and 1960. There are so many powerful stories out there by will power of a mother's words. Our words can cut our kids down or they can build them up and choose them to build them up.
Even in my first business as I was building it, I came across so much rejection, so much doubt and all of it, but she kept breathing life. She kept breathing belief. “You can do it. You’re my champion. Some will, some won’t, so what? Some are waiting and praying for an opportunity.” I remember all of these things in my head but you also flipped a switch. You knew when it was time to put your arm around me. You also knew, and maybe you didn't know when to do this but you maybe automatically did it by default because you were so ticked off. I remember locking up the driveway and you making the comment. I even wrote it in my book. “You can stand the heat or you can get out of the kitchen. Entrepreneurship is not for everyone. Obviously, it's not for you.” I gave you some choice words that day. That was a turning point for me. You were at that point where you were done with me. Maybe you were using reverse psychology, but that worked well. Whatever it was, you picked the right place because when I look back on my career, that was one of my biggest game changing moments that I had to make the decision for myself versus you prodding me along, “You can do this, you can make it.” At some point, you've got to let your kids hit rock bottom and then either they're going to put pick themselves up or they're not. That's where you've taught grit in a lot of ways as well.
You have to have grit in life. You were talking about the time, I call it my Mama P’s therapy pond. I have a pond on one side of my house and we walked that two times and it was 3.2 miles or something like that. We had walked the pond and usually by the time our second lap around the pond, I had encouraged her, build her up and she could handle it. That particular day she was still down in the dumps and having a pity party for herself. That is one thing at the Peter's. We don't let people have a pity party very long. The PLOMs disease, poor little old me. We get frustrated, we want to air what we're doing, but then this like, “Let's pick ourselves up and let's move on.” After the second round around the pond, she was still having a pity party and so Mama P was like, “Figure this out because I’ve dug to my toes. I'm exhausted. You’ve got to figure it out.” We have to let our kids sometimes figure it out for themselves.
What I am so grateful for, because when it comes to everyone else, I couldn’t care less what they think. I'm not a people pleaser, but when it comes to my mom and dad and brother, I can be on the struggle bus if I'm not in complete alignment with who they think I should be, what I should be doing. I have even shifted in what I'm doing in my career and it was very hard for me to come to you and say, “I need to be extremely honest with you. This is how I'm feeling. This is the direction that I want to go. I know you're not going to be thrilled about it, but I need to do this so my soul can keep fine and I can soar.” You've taught me to be an eagle. Anything that resembles a duck, run. We're not ducks in the Peters family, we’re eagles. Eagles sometimes fly alone.
I know it was very hard for you for a period of time. I'm sure you're still working through some of the different emotions. What I thought was neat was the first conversation was very heated. I shared my side and you shared your side. I didn't back down, you didn't back down, but we gave each other space. When we came back full circle and we had another conversation, we agreed to disagree on some different choices and some different things that I'm doing as an adult. That's a beautiful place to be, that no matter what choices your children decide to make, you've instilled so much greatness inside of us, but you let us be who God has called us to be. You don't try to keep us in a certain box or a certain bucket. Maybe you do for a period of time, but you've come to the realization, you're like, “I want my kids to be who God has called them to be and not what I necessarily want them to be.”
As toddlers and junior high and in high school, you try to add as much value during those years. When you were naughty, I would always try to get through to you, “I love you unconditionally. What you did was wrong, but you're not a bad person.” We sometimes get that blurred as parents sometimes because we get heated ourselves. I’ve always tried to instill that. I remember, you were very untraditional with what you did with college. You did a lot of online, so you are still home. I remember when Ben went to college, I had lost my dad in March and then he left for college in September. He kicked me to the curb for a little bit. That's typical moms. When your kids go to college, you get used to it. They want to fly. This is the funny thing about us parents. We want our children to soar like eagles. When they do, it's like, “Not so fast. I'm not quite done here yet.” You've got to let them fly. I remember crying buckets of tears that September when he went to college. I felt like my life is over or where is my value? We can't lose our self when we are raising our children. We have to personally continue to grow because then it will be exhilarating to you knowing that you have raised an incredible human being and they are flying. Now as a mom of adults, it's a whole new ball game because you want them to know why they believe what they do like their faith.
I always say, “They can't get to heaven on a family plan.” You can't get to heaven because Mama P has her faith in God. You’ve got to have your own personal walk with Jesus. That's very important. Sometimes they make choices that you go, “I didn't teach you that.” You’ve got to let go and let God and know that all through their life, they know their choices will have good consequences or bad consequences. It's all in their choices. You have to say, “God, they're yours. They always have been.” God gives us children so he keeps us on our knees. It doesn't matter when they're little or when they're adults, you keep praying for your kids because you love them to pieces.
Mom, I know that there have been a lot of changes. I moved full-time to Florida. They're in Minnesota and so we're thousands of miles apart. Our relationship has even shifted, but it's so great to have that relationship through and through that no matter what happens in life we love each other. Even though that we don't see eye-to-eye on certain things. At the end of the day, I even love something that was out on Instagram not too long ago with Ellen and she's like, “I was sitting next to George Bush.” Am I a fan of exactly who he is or what he does? No, but he's a great human being and I'm a great human being and there are people from all different faith walks, from all different walks of life. Different choices that people make at the end of the day, let’s love on people and everything works out in the end. That's important to accept all the choices, all the crazy that your kids go through and if you've instilled that greatness, it does come full circle.
Years ago, you could be a Republican or a Democrat and you still could get along. Now, it seems like there's so much hatred in the world. Try to instill in your children to love people even when they have different opinions. It's okay to have different opinions. Teach your children to have belief in God and courage. I love what John Wayne said about courage. If you can teach your children, that is an amazing characteristic trait. He says, "Courage is being scared to death, but saddling up any way.” Feeling the fear and doing it anyway. If you're going to try something new, you're going to have fear. That's part of life. Teach your kids to fail forward. Failure's not a bad thing. It is stepping stones in life. You share a story in your book, Stef, about the Spanx lady. Her dad at the dinner table would go, “Did you fail today?” If they would say no, “You didn't try hard enough.”
I jumped off another cliff and I'm expecting the net to appear and it was probably blindsided. You told me that it did. You have to keep putting one foot in front of the other and trusting the process and trusting God. It will all come together in the end. Here I want to finish off with the lightning around with the lady boss. If you wouldn't have started with what you did as an entrepreneur, what would you have gone into?
When I went to college, I was going to coach basketball. I’d be a Home Ec major, so it totally transformed.
I saw that going differently. People would be surprised that I spend so much time doing what? Probably like hanging out on Pinterest, but people wouldn’t be surprised with that.
Let's see how much time I spend on cleaning, probably. I have an Airbnb and I do way too much cleaning.
Your celebrity crush?
Raise A Lady Boss: There's nothing better to show your children than being a happy and fulfilled mom.
Denzel.
Chipotle or Chick-Fil-A?
Chipotle.
Your favorite way to spend downtime?
Put my jammies on. If I had been going, put on a Hallmark movie and popcorn.
You are all about the Hallmark, I am not. What are you reading right now?
I am reading Mark Batterson’s The Circle Maker. It is transforming my prayer life.
Best piece of advice you've ever received?
Don't sweat the small stuff. An older woman said that when I was raising my young kids. You get your panties in a wad over little things and she was like, “Don't sweat the small stuff.” Enjoy the journey.
Even when I told you, “Mom, you look old without lipstick,” you totally got ticked off by that. You're like, “She's a freaking seventh grader. She can go sit in the corner.”
Your kids will tell you stuff. It's like, “Really?” You’ll laugh about it later.
What are you absolutely addicted to?
Coffee.
Your most embarrassing moment?
Do I have to pick one? At the top of my head. Can I buy a vowel?
If you spend one day with anyone in the world, who would it be and why?
Because I have read about every John Maxwell book, I have learned so much from John Maxwell. I would love to spend a day with him. He has so much wisdom. I went to one of his certifications and he had a question and answer time and it oozes out of him. That is so refreshing. It's not scripted. It's so organic.
What’s your favorite food?
Probably Mexican.
Who inspires you or who do you aspire to be like?
There are so many people that I’ve never even met like Terri Savelle Foy, Joyce Meyer. The list goes on and on. When you are a reader, and that is one thing I'd encourage all your moms to do is get your kids to read because those are mentors too.
Which would be harder to give up, coffee or chocolate?
Definitely, coffee.
Describe yourself in one word.
Kind.
If you could swap lives with one person for a day, who would it be and why?
I like to swap with Oprah and experience what she experiences in one day. It would be so fun. I don't think I'd want to be her but it would be fun to experience a day in Oprah's life.
If you were a superhero, who would you be and why?
Raise A Lady Boss: There is a power in your pen. Write your goals down, post them where you can see them, and see amazing things happen.
Probably Wonder Woman because she looks hot.
You have so much depth.
Just off the top of my head and I had to keep it in ten seconds.
At least you stay with the rules. We'll leave it there. We are done with the lightning round with the lady boss. It’s nicely done. You violated some rules but it is what it is. The last three questions. If someone met you and said, “I want to become the boss of my own life and call the shots, what's my first step?”
Set goals and put them on your mirror. You can see them every single day and write yours. I know it was hard for me. When I first got married, I'm a little farm girl, so I never even heard the word goals or dreams or anything. It was just work hard. I had to work very good work ethic. When I married Steve, he was very into goal setting. To write it down, that was hard for me. It's like, “I’ve got to up in my head.” There is a power in your pen. Write your goals down, post them where you can see them and it is amazing what will happen.
What is your definition of a boss?
A boss that can take charge but loves Jesus. I would say firm and friendly. I have learned as a businesswoman you have to have grace for people. Have you walked in their shoes because everybody has their own story but also be firm and not let them walk all over you?
Any last words of wisdom from Mama P?
Teach your children great habits. I read a quite a few books on habits. Habits can be good or habits can be bad. Instilling them phenomenal habits and they will be amazing children and love them to pieces.
I love you so much, Mama P. If you want to follow this amazing mama boss and get some good mentoring tips from her, you can go to Julie Peters. You can look her up on Facebook, add her as a friend. She's also on Instagram, but she hangs out more on Facebook than anywhere else. Thank you from the bottom of my heart, mom, for being who you are and investing so much in me and countless others. I’ve seen you not only raise Ben and I, but so many other young people that you've mentored through the years. You're such a gift to this world. I want to encourage all you other mom bosses out there to fire your fear, build your faith, become the boss of your own life and instill greatness in your kiddo. We love you. We believe in you and we are praying huge blessings over your life as you raise those lady bosses and man bosses. Thanks, Mama P.
I love you. You’re my champion.
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About Julie Peters
Julie Peters is a multimillionaire mom boss that inspires countless Lady Bosses to step up into their God-given potential through her motivational speaking and “Mentoring by Mama P.”
She traveled with her husband as youth Evangelists for the first 12 years of their marriage. They spoke to over 1 million young people and adults through that ministry. They launched a Marketing Business in 1992 and became one of the Top 10 producers in North America.
Julie and her husband Steve Peters have been happily married for 37 years & love to do seminars on Goals, Dreams and Attitude and the Power of Forgiveness.
They reside in Minnesota 6 months during the summer and in Florida 6 months in the winter.